Forgiveness is Costly

The past few Sundays we have focused on Jesus’ teaching in Matthew 18 about handling conflict and forgiving those who have hurt or offended us. It is so important that we as Christians learn to handle conflict with each other following the plan that Jesus lays out for us. Conflict is a necessary reality of life. When you get people together, you get conflict. Differences in personalities, opinions and ideas lead toward conflict, and it isn’t just limited to people that you don’t care for. Some of the deepest conflicts that many of us face come from our relationships with those we care about the most. They key is not to learn to avoid conflict; there are even times when conflict is necessary for us to grow together. What we must do is learn to handle conflict in a way that brings glory to God and that upholds the reputation of the covenant community of the church.

One of the keys to dealing with conflict in this way is that we learn to be a forgiving people. It is no mistake that Jesus follows his instructions in Matthew 18:15-20 with very pointed words about how we are to forgive one another in light of all that we have been forgiven in verse 21-35. If you have missed the last few Sundays, I would encourage you to read the second half of Matthew 18 and to go on our website to download and  listen to the sermons.

When we talk about forgiveness, it’s important to acknowledge the fact that forgiveness is not always easy – in fact, it is often very difficult. But Jesus makes it clear that we must forgive each other in light of all that we’ve been forgiven. The parable of the unforgiving servant in Matthew 18 is such a clear picture of this. Forgiveness can be hard and it is often costly. In order to forgive someone who has hurt or offended you, you have to lay down your rights and in pursuit of reconciliation above retaliation. I don’t want to undersell how truly difficult this might be to do, but we cannot escape the fact that Jesus calls us to forgive others knowing that no matter how they have hurt us, our offense against God is even greater. We give forgiveness not because anyone earns or deserves it, but because God forgave us when we didn’t deserve it.

As costly as forgiveness may be, withholding forgiveness is even more costly. When you choose not to forgive someone for the wrong they have done, you are building a wall between yourself and God. You cannot experience the joy of God’s forgiveness if you are not willing to forgive others in the same manner that he has forgiven you. It’s not that his forgiveness becomes unavailable, but by choosing to put your standards of right and wrong above God’s, in effect you are saying, “God might forgive this, but I won’t.” What if how you forgive others set the standard of how you were to be forgiven?

In the last verse of Matthew 18 Jesus speaks of forgiving someone from your heart. In many situations, this kind of forgiveness requires strength greater than you or I possess. But take heart, because God will not call you to forgive others only to leave you alone and isolated, without the power to forgive them. By placing our trust in him and looking to cross of Christ as our example, we find the strength we need to accomplish anything that he requires of us. This is why Paul tells the Philippians that “it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure.”

So if you find yourself in a situation where you are holding on to feelings of bitterness and wrestling to forgive someone who has hurt or offended you, I call on you to look to the cross of Jesus Christ. Remember that you do not forgive only those whom you feel like deserve it, but your forgiveness should match the extravagant nature of God’s love for you.

Domestic Bliss

Lately there has been this faucet at my house that has been dripping when you shut it off. I am by no means a plumber, but I am decently handy, so I decided to see if I could fix it (I know what you’re thinking…domestic bliss!). In no time I had the handle taken apart, trying to figure out what was causing the leak. You would be amazed at how many pieces there were to that one handle – at least I was. As I was putting everything back together, it occurred to me that this faucet was a lot like our lives – humor me here, you know how preachers are always looking for things that will preach!

Over the years, dirt and grime had built up on the inside of my faucet handle to the point where things just weren’t working the way that they were supposed to. I took it apart, cleaned up all the pieces, and when I put it all back together, everything worked just like it was made to.

Most of us can probably relate to feeling like the dirt that has built up over the years keeps us from functioning like we were made to. The problem for us is that we lack what it takes to clean off the mess. Sure we try to dress things up and convince everybody else that everything is okay; a lot of the time we might even succeed at it. The point is that we can never really fix things by ourselves, though. Instead, we need someone to take the pieces of our lives and to clean us and put us back together.

This is where the beauty of the gospel finds us. We know that on our own we can never do enough or be clean enough to earn God’s favor. Instead, he desires for us to surrender everything to him in order that he might fix the broken pieces of our lives. There was a point as I was playing a plumber that I thought to myself, “If only I knew how everything in this faucet worked, this would all go much easier.” This particular faucet was made by Delta, and I can’t help but think that it probably was made right here in Chickasha at the old Delta faucet factory. Somewhere out there is somebody who used to build these faucets every day, and were that person to have been staring at all the pieces, I’m sure they would have known exactly what was needed to make everything right again. This is what God does for us. He made us, and he knows exactly what we need to be fulfilled and to experience the fullness of life that we were made for. And when we respond by faith to the gospel of Jesus Christ, he cleanses us and puts all the pieces of our lives back together.

I’m not saying that it’s always easy to surrender to him. In fact, if it were easy, what would stop us from doing it? The truth is that being cleansed and restored is often a slow and a painful process full of breaking free form old habits and getting rid of sins that we grown quite comfortable with. But until we allow Christ to really do work on the inner workings of our lives, we will never really work the way that we were made to. We’ll always be like my old leaky faucet, always running from what God has for us.

So what is it that keeps you from surrendering your all to Christ? What things does he need to cleanse you from in order that he might fix what is broken in your life? Remember that he made you, and he knows exactly what it’s going to take for you to experience the fullness of life that you were made to know!

A Reason To Celebrate

In case you haven’t heard, our Celebrate Recovery program is celebrating its 5 year anniversary this week, and I wanted to take the opportunity to celebrate with them over all that God has done and will continue to do through this ministry. Because of this ministry, our church has been able minister to hundreds of people over the last half-decade who were in need of the life-changing message of the gospel of Jesus Christ. There is something truly special about a group of people who are willing to be so honest and humble with one another as to share their struggles with life’s hurts, habits, and hangups. With Celebrate Recovery, that’s what you get every Monday night. If you’ve never been to a meeting, you really ought to come participate some Monday; you might be surprised with what you find.

When I served as a youth pastor, my church attempted to start a Life Hurts, God Heals group, which is essentially the companion to Celebrate Recovery for teenagers. We had a group of leadership who were committed to the ministry and who worked passionately to make it succeed, but we could never get the ministry to take off. It seemed that despite all of our planning and our best efforts, we couldn’t remove the stigma of the group being for broken, messed up teenagers. Everyone thought of it as AA for teens, and, for better or for worse, this was a hurdle that we couldn’t seem to overcome. We tried a number of ways to make the program work, but after about a year and a half we eventually decided that the ministry just wasn’t going to work until we found a group of students who were willing to be brave enough to open themselves up to being vulnerable about their struggles and their failures.

That type of honesty requires an extreme form of bravery. We all would admit that we make mistakes, but how many of us are willing to sit in a room with other people and to share openly about the ways that we fail? This sort of thing only happens if there are a few brave leaders who are willing to go first. I am grateful for the leadership of our Celebrate Recovery ministry, who from the beginning, have set the standard by creating the kind of environment where people feel safe to share openly about their struggles. But not only the leaders, I thankful for the hundreds who have come over the years to share their struggles and to celebrate the freedom that is available because of Jesus Christ.

The reason that Celebrate Recovery works is because it is based on leading people to surrender control of their lives to the Lordship of Jesus Christ. If Celebrate Recovery were just about people admitting their mistakes, it might provide some form of catharsis or a temporary victory, but it wouldn’t last. It is because the program is centered on gospel that it truly works. The only power that can change us or set us free from our sin and our patterns of destructive behavior is the gospel of Jesus Christ. More than any other reason, this is why I am thankful for our Celebrate Recovery ministry. Rain or shine, every Monday we have a group of people who are faithful to listen and to pray for one another, all while celebrating the power of the gospel at work in our hearts as Jesus transforms us into something beautiful and new. Consider this your open invitation to come celebrate the power of the gospel to change hearts and transform lives. Join us as we Celebrate Recovery!

Lesson Learned

If you missed our worship service this past Sunday, then you missed a real blessing. We celebrated by observing both baptism and the Lord’s supper together. It was such a great picture of what God is doing in our midst to see so many share together in a solemn reminder of Christ’s sacrifice that purchased our freedom. There was a real sense in our worship on Sunday that God is doing something special in our church, and it’s exciting to be a part of his kingdom at work.

But my favorite moment from our service on Sunday was one that few people saw. At about 9 Sunday morning I met the Lee family upstairs to make sure that everything was squared away for Lydia’s baptism. We went into the baptistry room, and as I opened the baptistry to make sure the water temperature was okay, I received quite a surprise. There was no water in the baptistry! At some point it had been emptied and cleaned and I had no idea. I felt like I had egg on my face. Here is this precious young girl excited to be baptized, with family and friends all making the trip to cheer her on, and I forgot the first rule of being a baptist – make sure there’s water in the baptistry! (If that’s not the first rule, it ought to be…) The Lees were very understanding, assuring me that they would be okay with whatever we could work out, but that if it were at all possible to fill up the baptistry, Lydia really wanted to get baptized. She had been waiting anxiously for this day and small details like not having water weren’t going to dampen her excitement. I turned on the water, said a brief prayer, and I crossed my fingers, hoping that we would have enough water by service time to make good on Lydia’s baptism. It worked. We were able to start our service with Lydia’s baptism yesterday, as scheduled, but with one big difference from our plan. The water was cold. And when I say cold, I mean COLD! I was wearing waders, and when I got out of the baptistry, my legs were totally numb.

I learned a few important lessons yesterday. First of all, ALWAYS check the baptistry to make sure it’s full. You can bet I won’t make that mistake twice. Second, I now have expert knowledge of our baptistry. I know where every pump, every drain, every water line and shut off valve is. And I learned that it takes exactly one hour to fill that thing full with 500 gallons of freezing cold water. But more importantly, I learned a much greater lesson. Lydia Lee taught me that when you are serious about following after Jesus, little things like a tub full of freezing water won’t get in your way. See, the part that no one else got to see on Sunday was the excitement on that little girl’s face to tell the whole world that she had given her life to Christ. And nothing – not even bone-chilling water or small things like an empty baptistry – was going to stand in her way from making her declaration that she belongs to Jesus.

Too many times we use the hurdles that are in front of us as an excuse to give up. When the going gets tough, we throw in the towel. But an 8 year old girl reminded me yesterday that there is nothing in this world that should stand in my way of declaring my allegiance to the King of all Kings. Thanks, Lydia. I needed that.

Embracing the Gospel

In my sermon Sunday I made the statement that you have not truly embraced the gospel until you are actively involved in sharing your faith. I wanted to take some time to explain a little further.

As I mentioned in my sermon, I am not intending to add any more to what the Scriptures teach concerning salvation. The Bible is clear that everyone who calls on the name of the Lord  will be saved. My point is that there is a difference between responding to the gospel and embracing it. Responding to the gospel requires faith in Christ built on the promise that he will save all those who repent of their sins and surrender their lives to him. When we respond to the call of Christ, we accept his gift of salvation and agree to place ourselves under the Lordship of Christ. But fully embracing the gospel goes even further in that we not only believe in the Lord for our salvation, but we surrender every area of our lives to his control. In this way, we embrace the gospel by putting kingdom things first in every area of our lives.

Now some might argue, isn’t that the same thing as surrendering to the Lordship of Christ? Isn’t Lordship all about giving Jesus control of every area of your life? Technically speaking, yes – Lordship really is all about total surrender. But there are a lot of Christians who have given their life to Christ who are not actively involved in sharing their faith. Churches are full of them. Our church is full of them. The point that I am trying to make is that there is much more to being fully devoted to Christ than simply trusting in him for your salvation. Jesus didn’t save you just to give you fire insurance; his desire is to take total control of your life. Most Christians (myself included) really wrestle with this level of surrender, but nonetheless that’s what Christ wants from us – that we yield all that we are to him. And the key point that I want to make is that we haven’t really done that until we are sold out for his kingdom.

Think about it this way: we naturally talk about what matters the most to us. If you have kids you don’t hesitate to tell people how much you love them or what’s happening in their life. When you’re in love, you want to tell people all about that special someone who has changed everything. The same should be true with our faith. If we have really been rescued from the depths of our sin by a loving Savior, shouldn’t we want to tell everyone about what we’ve found? I believe so, and I believe that we’ve not really grasped the gravity of our sin and all we’ve been saved from if we aren’t willing to share that with others.

So think about the people that you care for who are far from Christ. God wants to use you to reach them with the gospel of Jesus Christ. You don’t have to have all the answers or go through some special training to tell people about Jesus. All you have to do is to share the story of the greatest thing that has ever happened to you. And you can be sure that you have fully embraced Christ’s sacrifice for you when it becomes the defining reality of your life!

Distractions

This past weekend my house was overtaken by a group of 10th grade girls and their leaders for our student ministry’s Big Weekend. We had a great time hosting as I know did everyone involved with the weekend. It’s always exciting to see a group of students who are willing to get serious about devoting their life to Christ. It blows my mind to think about what God can do through this generation if they will commit to being wholly surrendered to him.

The theme for our students was centered around dealing with the distractions in our lives that keep us from following after Christ. We are all faced with distractions every day of our lives. In the midst of juggling our responsibilities with family, school, work and whatever else fills our time, it can be hard to focus on what God has for us. We have to learn to prioritize our lives so that our relationship with God stays at the top of our list rather than falling behind the host of other things competing for our attention. All too easily our distractions can become temptations that will pry us from what matters most, causing us to stumble into sin.

Think about all of the distractions that were supposed to make our lives easier or to give us more free time, but instead they rob our focus and lead us into sin. Technology is a great example. More and more it seems like you hear stories about affairs that began on Facebook, grown men who spend extreme amounts of time playing video games, or people who can’t stop obsessing over what their friends are doing every second of the day. There is not wrong with technology or the entertainment that it can provide, but being entertained too easily can become a distraction, which in turn leads to temptation. The point is that we’ve got to slow down and even unplug from all the distractions that compete for our attention. If you aren’t careful, you can get so caught up with all the things that you could be doing that you miss the things that you should be doing altogether.

Spiritual disciplines get their name from the fact that it takes discipline to pursue them. Things like prayer and Bible study may not compete for your attention like your Twitter timeline or your Facebook news feed, but if you neglect the disciplines your spiritual life will be dry and powerless. Study the Scriptures (the book of Mark especially) and look at the number of times that Jesus withdrew to be alone with the Father. If you aren’t regularly retreating from the distractions to spend time alone with God, you cannot possible enjoy the fullness of life that God wants to give you.

So this week make it a point to disengage from the distractions that want to rob you of your focus. Commit to pursuing discipline through retreating from the world to spend time alone with God. Even just a few minutes a day alone with him has the power to change your life! When was the last time Facebook did that for you?

God Move ME!

This past Sunday in my sermon on the Keys to the Kingdom in Matthew 13, I shared with you my belief that experiencing a movement of God starts with people who are moved by God. It is one thing to find the gospel moving, but another thing altogether to be moved by the gospel. A genuine movement of God will not happen until you are moved by the gospel to a response that brings about the surrender of your heart. Let me provide you with an example in scripture of what I am saying. In Acts chapter 26 Paul appears before King Agrippa to plead his case. When he was called upon to give testimony about the charges against him, Paul proceeded to share the story of how God had appeared to him on the road to Damascus, and how out of that experience he was moved by God to surrender his life to Jesus. Hearing Paul’s testimony, Agrippa responded, “In a short time would you persuade me to be a Christian?” Paul replied to him, “I would to God that not only you but also all who hear me this day might become [a Christian].” Do you see the contrast in their response to the gospel? Paul understood the truth and responded by surrendering his heart to Christ. Agrippa understood the truth and responded by asking Paul, “Are you trying to convert me?”

It is possible to know the truth of the gospel, even to understand your need for the gospel, but never to be truly moved by it. This is because truly embracing the gospel requires surrender on our part. You cannot follow God and stay where you are at! If you want to experience a genuine movement of God in your life, then it starts with unconditional surrender to the gospel. And this isn’t something that you do just once. That is why Jesus tells his disciples that they are to “take up [your] cross daily and follow me.” Surrendering to God is a daily activity whereby we make a decision to be yielded to his will.

When I was in college I had a friend who would set his Bible next to his bed each night when he went to sleep. Someone noticed that he did this and they asked him about why he would place it so each evening as he went to bed. He reasoned that each day when he would wake up he knew that he would have to make a decision for that day to pause and seek the Lord or to pass over God’s will for his life that day. What an incredible picture of the the kind of radical surrender that God wants from us! Every day we are faced with the decision to do it our way to or to be surrendered to his will.

The scary thing about unconditional surrender is that you hold nothing back. When you give all that you have, there is no reserve; you are entirely at his mercy to supply your needs. But when you understand how much God loves you and that his desire is always for his glory and your good, this is not such a bad place to be. God’s love for you is so extravagant, and his knowledge of what is best for your life is so much greater than yours. Think about it – you can’t even make yourself happy. How could you possibly be able to always know what is best? Yet God knows exactly what you need, and Jesus tells us that our heavenly Father desires to give us what is best for us. Shouldn’t we surrender ourselves to him that we might experience his movement in our lives?

My prayer for you as we launch into a new year is that you will experience the movement of God in your life in 2012 like you never have known before. Remember that experiencing God’s movement starts with praying, “God, move me!”

A New Year, A New You

Happy new year! I am so excited for all that God is going to do in this new year for our First family. We have been working for weeks scheduling events all throughout 2012, and it promises to be a year of vision and excitement. A phrase that seems to show up in my vocabulary every year around this time is “a new year, a new you.” A new year is a great time to start something new or just to start over. I know that many of us are already busy working to keep our new year’s resolutions, but in case you’ve procrastinated on setting yours, let me challenge you with a few things that I think will help make 2012 a year that could change your life forever.

A new year is a great time to reengage with spiritual disciplines. If you have fallen out of reading the bible or spending time in prayer, what better time to reengage with those practices than now?

A new year is a great time to set goals. As you set goals for your family, or for work, or perhaps school, don’t forget to set goals for where you want to be spiritually. Spend some time in prayer and allow God to shape your priorities and your goals for 2012.

A new year is a great time to dream about the future. I to practice dreaming as a discipline. Don’t limit yourself or your ability to experience God because you never take the time to dream about what could be!

A new year is a great time to plan ahead. Take the time to develop plans for bringing those dreams to life.

A new year is a great time to get back into church. If you have fallen away from the church or if sleeping in has become a habit, set you alarm and join us for Sunday School and worship this Sunday!

A new year is a great time to celebrate. As you reflect on 2011, take the time to celebrate God’s faithfulness in the midst of the good and the bad.

Let me encourage you to take the time to launch into 2012 by taking the time to look forward to all that God wants to do in you and through you this year!

Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas! As you are finishing your final preparations for Christmas, I pray that you will have a joyful holiday with family and friends. As 2011 draws to a close, I’ve spent some time reflecting on all that has happened inside of the last year. To say the least, this has been a huge year both for our church and for my family. Who would have known just one year ago just how much God was going to bless us by leading us on a journey that would bring us here to First Baptist Church Chickasha.

It was in the days just before Christmas last year that Raylee and I formally accepted the invitation from the pastor search committee at First Baptist Church Chickasha to come in view of call as the church’s next pastor. We spent Christmas of 2010 with hearts full of joy and anticipation for where we felt God was leading us. Fast forward another year and the thought of coming to pastor First Baptist Church is no longer just a dream. I can tell you that Christmas is even sweeter this year than ever, now that we have come to be a part of the First family. We love our church family more than you know. You are constantly on our hearts and in our prayers. There have been many times this past year where we have had the occasion to reflect how much God blessed our lives by leading us to Chickasha.

As Christmas day approaches, I want to take one more opportunity to challenge you that you not miss Jesus this year at Christmas. John sums up the real reason for our celebration better than anyone in John 1:14 when he writes, “And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth.” At this time of year more than any other we celebrate the fact that the Word became flesh! I pray that you will worship Jesus fully this year at Christmas by honoring him with all that you do. This year at Christmas, I hope that at every family gathering, every party, even every worship service you attend that Jesus may be center stage as we celebrate the birth of our risen Savior!

Pray. Give. Go.

If you missed our service this past Sunday night, you truly missed out on a blessing. Gerald and Vicki Davis, Southern Baptist International Mission Board missionaries to Southeast Asia were with us sharing about their experiences in more than 27 years on the mission field. Their stories were truly amazing; hearing them share about ways that our IMB missionaries are at work to advance the gospel to all the peoples of the earth was both inspiring and motivating. There is so much work yet to be done in order for us to fulfill the Great Commission task of taking the gospel to every tribe and tongue, but it is encouraging to know that we have some of the most gifted and committed believers that I know of serving on the front lines as our IMB missionaries.

When it comes to reaching the unreached people of the world, there are three significant ways that we can be involved as a church. The first thing that we can commit to do is to Pray for our missionaries around the globe. Gerald and Vicki shared with us last night about the blessing that it was to know that their SBC family was supporting their work in prayer. The great thing about prayer is that anyone can do it. No one has the excuse of not being able to pray for the work that needs to be done. You can pray for our more than 5,000 missionaries that are serving on the mission field through the IMB. You can pray for the nationals in all of the countries where the IMB has an active presence, that an indigenous church with indigenous leadership would be raised up from those who our missionaries are reaching and discipling. You can pray for the millions of people from among the 3,789 unengaged, unreached people groups who have no witness to the gospel among their culture. You can pray that God might stir your heart with ways that you can take a more active role in helping to reach the unreached people of the world. Everyone can pray!

The second way that we can be involved as a church is to Give. This month Southern Baptist churches are working together collecting our annual Lottie Moon Christmas offering. The convention-wide goal for Lottie Moon this year is 175 million dollars. We have the opportunity to contribute toward this all during the month of December. So far this year our church has raised close to $1,200 for Lottie Moon, but we can do so much more. As Americans, we have been blessed with so much. You have but to travel outside of our country to realize the many things that we take for granted each and every day. With Christmas approaching, most of us are going to spend hundreds if not more buying gifts for people who want for very little. What if instead this year, you commit to spending less on Christmas in order that you might give more to our Lottie Moon offering to help reach people everywhere with the gospel of Jesus Christ?

And finally, you and I can help reach our world by looking for ways that we might Go. Let’s face it, praying and even giving are easy ways to be a part of reaching people. Where it gets much more difficult, much more personal for us is when God calls us to go. And yet if we do not accept the call to go and to make disciples, then how will the unreached people of the world ever hear the gospel? This next year we will be working as a church to develop strategic partnerships with IMB missionaries that will enable us to begin sending people to serve in short-term missions. Could it be that God wants you to join us as we are stirred to action for the Great Commission? My prayer is that you would be open to God’s leadership in your life, so that wherever he leads you might go.

There are three ways that we must be involved in strategically reaching people from around the globe with the gospel. We can Pray, Give, and Go. Let us commit together to be focused on God’s direction, that he might use us to fulfill his desire to reach people everywhere!